Reading more of Dyer Wayne´s texts .
First of all, and this will be the most obvious, you will
see that they are people who enjoy virtually everything that life offers them;
people who are comfortable doing anything and don't waste time complaining or
wishing things were different. They are enthusiastic about life and want
everything they can get out of it.
They like to go hiking, go to the movies, read, play sports,
attend concerts, visit cities, farms, see animals, mountains and really almost
everything. They like life. When you are around people like this, you will
notice the absence of laments and even passive sighs. If it rains, they like
it. If it's hot they enjoy it instead of complaining. Whether they are in a
traffic jam, or at a party, or all alone, they just do the best they can. It is
not a question of enjoying everything that happens, but of a wise acceptance of
what is, of a rare ability to delight in reality. Ask them what they don't like
and they'll have a hard time giving you an honest answer. They don't act
sensibly that sheltering from the rain would mean taking shelter, because they
find the rain beautiful, exhilarating and something worth experiencing. They
like. The mud doesn't make them angry: they watch it, splash around in it, and
accept it as part of what it means to be alive. Do you like cats? Yes. Bears?
Yes. Worms? Yes. And although inconveniences such as diseases, droughts,
mosquitoes, floods and other calamities do not bring them pleasure or accept
them with enthusiasm, they are people who do not spend their present moments
complaining about them or wishing that they were not so. If certain situations
have to be destroyed, they will try to destroy them. And they will enjoy doing
it. No matter how hard you try, you will have a hard time discovering something
that they do not like to do. They really love life and really immerse
themselves in it enjoying all that it gives them.
Healthy and fulfilled people are free from the feeling of
guilt and all the anxiety that occurs when present moments are used
immobilizing themselves for events that happened in the past. They can
certainly acknowledge that they have made mistakes and can promise themselves that
they will avoid repeating certain behaviors that backfired in some way, but
they don't waste their time regretting something they did that they wish they
hadn't done, or upset because they disliked something they did at some point.
of his past life. Total lack of guilt is one of the characteristics of healthy
people. No regrets about what happened and no efforts to get others to take
blame by asking idle questions like "Why didn't you do it
differently?" or "Aren't you ashamed of yourself?" They give the
impression of who know how to recognize that life already lived is that, and
that no matter how bad one feels about it, nothing can be done to change what
happened.They themselves feel free of guilt without any effort: because it is
natural, they never help others. others to choose blame. They realize that
feeling bad in the present moment only reinforces a person's poor self-image
and that it is much better to learn from the past than to protest the past. You
will never see them manipulating others. others telling them how bad they have
been, nor can you manipulate them with the same tactics. They will not get
angry with you, they simply will not listen to you, they will ignore you.
Instead of being angry with you, they will prefer to leave or change the
subject. The strategies that they work so well with most people they completely
fail with these very healthy beings. Instead of making themselves or others
miserable with guilty feelings, they quietly, without much ceremony, put guilt
aside when they find it in their way.
Healthy and fulfilled people are free from the feeling of
guilt and all the anxiety that occurs when present moments are used
immobilizing themselves for events that happened in the past. They can
certainly acknowledge that they have made mistakes and can promise themselves
that they will avoid repeating certain behaviors that backfired in some way,
but they don't waste their time regretting something they did that they wish
they hadn't done, or upset because they disliked something they did at some
point. of his past life. Total lack of guilt is one of the characteristics of
healthy people. No regrets about what happened and no efforts to get others to
take blame by asking idle questions like "Why didn't you do it
differently?" or "Aren't you ashamed of yourself?" They give the
impression of who know how to recognize that life already lived is that, and
that no matter how bad one feels about it, nothing can be done to change what
happened.They themselves feel free of guilt without any effort: because it is
natural, they never help others. others to choose blame. They realize that
feeling bad in the present moment only reinforces a person's poor self-image
and that it is much better to learn from the past than to protest the past. You
will never see them manipulating others. others telling them how bad they have
been, nor can you manipulate them with the same tactics. They will not get
angry with you, they simply will not listen to you, they will ignore you.
Instead of being angry with you, they will prefer to leave or change the
subject. The strategies that they work so well with most people they completely
fail with these very healthy beings. Instead of making themselves or others
miserable with guilty feelings, they quietly, without much ceremony, put guilt
aside when they find it in their way.
Likewise people free from erroneous zones do not torment
themselves with worries. Some circumstances that could drive other people crazy
hardly affect these individuals. They are neither future planners nor future
savers. They refuse to worry about what will happen in the future and remain
free of the anxiety that accompanies worry. They don't know how to worry. It is
not part of his way of being. It is not that they are necessarily calm all the
time but they are not willing to spend their present moments suffering for
things that may happen in the future and over which they have no control. They
are oriented mainly towards their present moments, and they have an internal
signal that seems to remind them that all worries must happen in the present
moment, and that this is a very foolish way to live your present. These people
now live in the present and not in the past or future. They do not feel
threatened by the unknown and seek new experiences that are not familiar to
them. They love ambiguity. They enjoy the now at all times convinced that it is
all they have. They do not make plans for a future event allowing long periods
of inactivity to pass while waiting for this event. The moments between events are
as liveable as the events themselves, and these people have an uncanny ability
to extract as much joy as possible from their daily lives. They are not
"procrastinators" or savers for bad times, and while our culture may
not condone their behavior, they are not threatened by self-reproach! They
appreciate and enjoy their happiness now and when the future comes and becomes
the present they appreciate and enjoy it too. These individuals always enjoy
because they simply realize the absurdity of waiting to enjoy. It is a very
natural way of living life, like a
child.
Carpe Diem
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