Saturday, June 4, 2011

Dating for Money?

I met a woman this week who has a boyfriend but goes out with other men because she has no money. How does everyone react to this? #Ethics

Sent Jun 04, 04:51 AM
From @PhilosophyTweet


  1. I don't believe in dating someone to acquire financial stability, but here are my questions:

    1. What is the commitment level and understanding between her and the boyfriend? Is he aware that she dates other men?

    2. Do the other men realize that she dates them for their money? If so, do they care?

    3. Not having money is a justifying argument. Did she explain herself in a matter-of-fact way, or does she feel guilt or defensive when describing her dating methods?

  2. Define "no money". Nothing at all or not enough to her liking? If nothing at all, self preservation could transcend ethics. When it is not enough to her liking then ethics should be the stronger argument. Then the question remains: is it ethical? From her perspective it is about wanting more than you have and ethics is never about wanting more than you have, if it is "enough to survive". so in that case it is not ethical. It is the choice between bodily needs and ethics that has to be made, especially when both arguments are equally strong (or almost, as ethics usually is the stronger argument in order to be able to live amongst each other).
    When you switch to the perspective of the other men, boyfriend included, and everyone is aware of the facts at hand and all is offered to her where she only has to accept, it could be ethical from their point of view.