How to enjoy everything that life offers you.

Reading more of Dyer Wayne´s  texts .

 

First of all, and this will be the most obvious, you will see that they are people who enjoy virtually everything that life offers them; people who are comfortable doing anything and don't waste time complaining or wishing things were different. They are enthusiastic about life and want everything they can get out of it.

 

 

They like to go hiking, go to the movies, read, play sports, attend concerts, visit cities, farms, see animals, mountains and really almost everything. They like life. When you are around people like this, you will notice the absence of laments and even passive sighs. If it rains, they like it. If it's hot they enjoy it instead of complaining. Whether they are in a traffic jam, or at a party, or all alone, they just do the best they can. It is not a question of enjoying everything that happens, but of a wise acceptance of what is, of a rare ability to delight in reality. Ask them what they don't like and they'll have a hard time giving you an honest answer. They don't act sensibly that sheltering from the rain would mean taking shelter, because they find the rain beautiful, exhilarating and something worth experiencing. They like. The mud doesn't make them angry: they watch it, splash around in it, and accept it as part of what it means to be alive. Do you like cats? Yes. Bears? Yes. Worms? Yes. And although inconveniences such as diseases, droughts, mosquitoes, floods and other calamities do not bring them pleasure or accept them with enthusiasm, they are people who do not spend their present moments complaining about them or wishing that they were not so. If certain situations have to be destroyed, they will try to destroy them. And they will enjoy doing it. No matter how hard you try, you will have a hard time discovering something that they do not like to do. They really love life and really immerse themselves in it enjoying all that it gives them.

 

Healthy and fulfilled people are free from the feeling of guilt and all the anxiety that occurs when present moments are used immobilizing themselves for events that happened in the past. They can certainly acknowledge that they have made mistakes and can promise themselves that they will avoid repeating certain behaviors that backfired in some way, but they don't waste their time regretting something they did that they wish they hadn't done, or upset because they disliked something they did at some point. of his past life. Total lack of guilt is one of the characteristics of healthy people. No regrets about what happened and no efforts to get others to take blame by asking idle questions like "Why didn't you do it differently?" or "Aren't you ashamed of yourself?" They give the impression of who know how to recognize that life already lived is that, and that no matter how bad one feels about it, nothing can be done to change what happened.They themselves feel free of guilt without any effort: because it is natural, they never help others. others to choose blame. They realize that feeling bad in the present moment only reinforces a person's poor self-image and that it is much better to learn from the past than to protest the past. You will never see them manipulating others. others telling them how bad they have been, nor can you manipulate them with the same tactics. They will not get angry with you, they simply will not listen to you, they will ignore you. Instead of being angry with you, they will prefer to leave or change the subject. The strategies that they work so well with most people they completely fail with these very healthy beings. Instead of making themselves or others miserable with guilty feelings, they quietly, without much ceremony, put guilt aside when they find it in their way.

 

Healthy and fulfilled people are free from the feeling of guilt and all the anxiety that occurs when present moments are used immobilizing themselves for events that happened in the past. They can certainly acknowledge that they have made mistakes and can promise themselves that they will avoid repeating certain behaviors that backfired in some way, but they don't waste their time regretting something they did that they wish they hadn't done, or upset because they disliked something they did at some point. of his past life. Total lack of guilt is one of the characteristics of healthy people. No regrets about what happened and no efforts to get others to take blame by asking idle questions like "Why didn't you do it differently?" or "Aren't you ashamed of yourself?" They give the impression of who know how to recognize that life already lived is that, and that no matter how bad one feels about it, nothing can be done to change what happened.They themselves feel free of guilt without any effort: because it is natural, they never help others. others to choose blame. They realize that feeling bad in the present moment only reinforces a person's poor self-image and that it is much better to learn from the past than to protest the past. You will never see them manipulating others. others telling them how bad they have been, nor can you manipulate them with the same tactics. They will not get angry with you, they simply will not listen to you, they will ignore you. Instead of being angry with you, they will prefer to leave or change the subject. The strategies that they work so well with most people they completely fail with these very healthy beings. Instead of making themselves or others miserable with guilty feelings, they quietly, without much ceremony, put guilt aside when they find it in their way.

 

Likewise people free from erroneous zones do not torment themselves with worries. Some circumstances that could drive other people crazy hardly affect these individuals. They are neither future planners nor future savers. They refuse to worry about what will happen in the future and remain free of the anxiety that accompanies worry. They don't know how to worry. It is not part of his way of being. It is not that they are necessarily calm all the time but they are not willing to spend their present moments suffering for things that may happen in the future and over which they have no control. They are oriented mainly towards their present moments, and they have an internal signal that seems to remind them that all worries must happen in the present moment, and that this is a very foolish way to live your present. These people now live in the present and not in the past or future. They do not feel threatened by the unknown and seek new experiences that are not familiar to them. They love ambiguity. They enjoy the now at all times convinced that it is all they have. They do not make plans for a future event allowing long periods of inactivity to pass while waiting for this event. The moments between events are as liveable as the events themselves, and these people have an uncanny ability to extract as much joy as possible from their daily lives. They are not "procrastinators" or savers for bad times, and while our culture may not condone their behavior, they are not threatened by self-reproach! They appreciate and enjoy their happiness now and when the future comes and becomes the present they appreciate and enjoy it too. These individuals always enjoy because they simply realize the absurdity of waiting to enjoy. It is a very natural way of living life,  like a child.

 

 

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